{"id":3315,"date":"2023-10-17T15:15:13","date_gmt":"2023-10-17T19:15:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/toryjoseph.test\/?p=3315"},"modified":"2023-11-10T08:59:42","modified_gmt":"2023-11-10T13:59:42","slug":"parenting-styles-is-your-relationship-over-when-you-disagree-on-parenting-the-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/parenting-styles-is-your-relationship-over-when-you-disagree-on-parenting-the-kids\/","title":{"rendered":"Parenting Styles: Is Your Relationship Over When You Disagree on Parenting the Kids?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

As a couples therapist specializing in parenting issues, I often see parents who disagree about how to raise their children. The most common of these disagreements revolve around how to discipline their children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arguments about how to discipline kids <\/a>can be about whether it’s too much or too little discipline. Sometimes, one of the parents may feel their child is taking advantage of them, while the other parent thinks that more discipline will only create unnecessary conflict. Sadly, each parent can begin to feel they are undermining one another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From undermining one another around parenting, the couple soon begins a pattern of a power struggle. That power<\/a> struggle<\/a> can bleed into all parts of their relationship. Once a couple becomes locked into a power struggle, each partner begins to take a stronger stand on all topics to prove they are right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately, when the power struggle happens and sticks – the relationship dynamic changes to become more about being right and not losing the “upper hand”<\/strong> in the relationship. When the couple gets to this point of focusing on winning and no longer working together as a team, they head into much heartache for themselves, the relationship, and the entire family. So, what to do if you’re stuck in this pattern with your partner and disagree on parenting styles?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How To Manage Parenting Styles That Don’t Match<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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First of all, there’s hope when parenting styles don’t match! Here are a few parenting tips to get you and your partner back on the same team, deepen your relationship, and strengthen the family dynamic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Parenting Tip #1:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

First, having two perspectives when parenting is a huge advantage! Look at it as a positive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, when embroiled in the emotions of how to handle a temper tantrum<\/a>, or when your child is demanding that you do something right now, and they hate you, having another adult person who is less emotionally triggered at that moment can take a lot of pressure off if we allow it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you can’t see that we are so affected by our upbringing that we are being unreasonable, it helps to have another opinion. Changing your perspective is helpful to see it as a benefit, not a hindrance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most decisions can wait until you’ve allowed time and space to gather another perspective. Then, you are most able to make a more conscious choice. One of my favorite strategies in these pressure-filled moments is to tell a child making a demand the following:<\/p>\n\n\n\n