{"id":3234,"date":"2022-07-14T20:36:00","date_gmt":"2022-07-15T00:36:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/?p=3234"},"modified":"2023-08-14T07:56:09","modified_gmt":"2023-08-14T11:56:09","slug":"the-key-to-a-happy-adulthood","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/the-key-to-a-happy-adulthood\/","title":{"rendered":"The Key to a Happy Adulthood"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
\u201cMore than any single factor that we can control, connectedness in childhood is the key to a happy adulthood\u201d says Edward Hallowell in \u201cThe Childhood Roots to Adult Happiness\u201d. He cites a comprehensive study in the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, Journal of the American Medical Association, 1997. This study, on ninety thousand students around the US, demonstrated the importance, above all, of feeling connected. Our first experience comes from home and our family of origin. Connectedness was defined as feeling understood, loved, wanted, and paid attention to by family members. The feeling of connectedness at home protects against emotional distress, suicidal thoughts and attempts, violent behavior, and drug and alcohol abuse. The second most important factor was connectedness at school. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I remember hearing this advice as a young parent of three and wondering how I can deliver this magic bullet of connectedness to protect my children, while working and taking care of basic family needs at the same time. I discovered the work of Stanley Greenspan, who coined the term \u201cfloortime<\/a>\u201d. Dr. Greenspan\u2019s method has been modified to become accessible to all parents. \u201cSpecial Time\u201d is a practice that I learned through the Parent Encouragement Program, www.PEPparent.org<\/a>. Using Special Time regularly, ensures that your children, from the earliest age though adolescence, will feel connected, and that they really matter to their family. It builds empathy, trust, a sense of partnership, and self-worth. When I coach parents, this is the first basic tool I recommend. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Special time has so many benefits. Making myself available to my kids in this way gave me a window into their world: their desires, fears, learning style, creativity. It teaches children the necessary skills to create successful relationships, such as attunement and empathy. Empathy is largely dependent on the automatic attunement process, usually learned in early childhood through parent-child engagement and mirroring. As important as nutrition, it gives children the emotional nutrition needed to build a positive sense of self-worth, as reflected by the intentional engagement with the most important individuals in their life. It helps build a trusting relationship of influence, which should last a lifetime. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cMore than any single factor that we can control, connectedness in childhood is the key to a happy adulthood\u201d says Edward Hallowell in \u201cThe Childhood Roots to Adult Happiness\u201d.\u00a0 He cites a comprehensive study in the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, Journal of the American Medical Association, 1997.\u00a0 This study, on ninety thousand students around the US, demonstrated the importance, above all, of feeling connected. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":3235,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[44],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3234"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3234"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3234\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3235"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3234"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3234"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.toryjoseph.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3234"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Steps for Special Time<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
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Emotional Nutrition<\/h4>\n\n\n\n